40 years ago, I was abused at Ballarat Grammar. I know first-hand that change is possible

In my case, there was abuse at the hands of two priests who have since died, and physical assault by two teachers.

At my 40th school reunion, I stood in the chapel behind the altar and weighed suing the school.

In recent months, I unexpectedly settled in mediation a three-year Supreme Court case against Ballarat Grammar School for negligence. In part, my case reflected the very culture that has caused such disastrous headlines and coverage for the school over the past week.

The reason the school can use this moment, shocking but not surprising, is because its headmaster, Adam Heath genuinely appears to understand as a teacher, a father and a human being that the long-held status quo is not an option.

During my mediation, Heath led a legal and financial team of five or six people, all of whom I could look in the eye as I told my story. A few months after that, he travelled to Melbourne where we met and spoke for an hour. He knows, I am certain, the gravity of the effects of abuse.

Police are investigating the latest allegations and a review is under way. Heath says the school is providing support to the affected students and families “as we seek to understand the choices that have led to these behaviours”. What choice in a culture of conformity?

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Assuming Heath truly cares and is a man of his word, he needs the full support of the school community to change this culture. Parents need to intervene, as has been the case here, and so does the school’s faculty. They need to get behind change or be damned for damaging the innocent.

Still, it is worrying to see the school’s lawyers contest the allegations of the former 12-year-old student, and propose the family sign a non-disclosure agreement in settling the matter, as recently as March 2023.

It ought to abandon that position. The school today has an opportunity to genuinely break from this inglorious past and fix an entrenched culture of cowardice and bullying.

To not take that chance would be an egregious error, for it has shown me that there can be restorative justice, up to a point. Recompense can’t reinstate, but it can help people heal a bit. The damage of abuse can be mitigated, but is permanent. And cleaning it up might take some balls.

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Michael Short is a Melbourne writer and former chief editorial writer for The Age. His podcast, Good People Fix Bad Shit, launches later this year.